The Case for Living the Self-Directed Life
Can't It Be Summertime All Year Long?
Summer is probably the most dreamed about, written about, and longed for season in America.
For most of America’s children and young adults, summertime means freedom. The school year schedule fades away and the longer, warmer days are replaced with uninterrupted sleep, exploration, visiting with family and friends, vacationing, and learning new information simply because of a desire and curiosity to know, not in order to pass a test or check a box.
The alarm bells cease and desist.
Stress subsides and growing minds are happily given more time to wander and wonder.
A collective sigh is felt.
There seems to be a universal respect for the unscheduled, free-flowing days of summer and a recognition that it really needs to be a time when kids can just exist without adult meddling, over planning, and directing their every move.
But why only summer?
Can’t this—or more importantly, shouldn’t this— be the reality for children all year long?
We seem to accept that learning is essential to our society and knowledge sharing is what helps us advance as a society, even prevents us from making terrible, or deadly mistakes. But isn’t it possible that we have gone about knowledge sharing the wrong way?
The current traditional system creates an us (teachers) versus them (children) mentality. Children are essentially required to “do as they are told”. The freedom to learn and interact with information at a pace that is right for them is rarely an option. There is a pace to be kept. There is material to get through.
The idea that children can direct their own learning is brushed aside in favor of boxed curriculum, standardization, and academic benchmarks which are sold as the only way to obtain the dangling carrot of K-12 education, the high school diploma.
Here’s the rub.
We know that a high school diploma isn’t enough anymore to secure a well paying job in our current economy. Not to mention the rules for receiving one changes from state to state, in essence making the diploma difficult to valuate and certainly gives us no clear understanding of the possible skill set an individual has. So, you go to school for 13 years, spend over 14,000 hours under the direction of teachers, add in homework, projects, and other required school related activities and you can’t get a well paying job?
Feels like a huge rip off to me.
What we do know, and what has been consistently the case since the beginning of time, is that learning is as natural of an activity as eating, sleeping, and procreating, all of which are extremely unique to the individual.
Children are by far the most unique in regards to learning because their brains take in information at break neck speed. They don’t miss anything!
“So if you want to expand your consciousness, you can try psychedelic drugs, mysticism or meditation. Or you can just go for a walk with a 4-year-old.”
Do kids truly need adults to constantly manage and control their learning? I don’t think so.
Do children need supportive, loving, resourceful adults in their lives who understand the value of creating an enriching environment and opportunities for growth and cognitive expansion? Absolutely!
In the latter case, you could not stop learning even if you tried.
When our brains are excited, interested, and engaged we learn without any pre-determined lesson plans or worksheets. On the flip side, we know humans do not learn well under duress. Stress affects how our brains process information and basically shuts down learning.
We have all heard countless stories of the stress our children face daily in the traditional schooling world. It is absolutely out of hand. Just do a Google search for “is school causing stress” and you will get way more stories, studies, and reports than you will ever have time to read.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
We can and should support and embrace knowledge autonomy in our society.
When individuals are allowed to gather information in a way that is unique and personal to them learning is richer, deeper, and more meaningful. Will they have piles of worksheets or tests in folders to prove their knowledge? Not likely, but that isn’t necessary.
Schooling isn’t necessary either to create learners.
Ideally, we should provide children with time, space, and the flexibility to interact with a variety of interests without feeling pressured to do so adhering to an arbitrary, schooling timeline.
By living the self-directed life, we experience summertime type freedom all year long.
Are there challenges with this type of freedom? Sure. Sometimes I fail to follow through on an idea or take advantage of a one of my children’s creative sparks. Sometimes my children choose a more pleasureable activity of a less mentally demanding one. This doesn’t mean we forego harder things or more cognitively challenging tasks all the time. Instead, we live life as the trial and error it is. We talk about what we hope to accomplish and we discuss the necessary steps required to reach said accomplishment. Add in exploration and healthy relationship building and you have the basic recipe for self-directed education.
Oh and TRUST.
Taking the leap to live a less constrained life can be scary, make your heart race, and your palms sweaty, but the exhilaration that washes over you when you realize the jump wasn’t as intense as you perceived it to be is well worth it.
Will you leap?
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Thank you for this nourishing read!
Love this! We're on exactly the same page. Will look forward to sharing this in our newsletter :) Thank you!